Teach empathy and compassion
Give praise, appreciation, &
corrections.
Use hugs as rewards.
Discuss rules, requirements
and consequences.
Assign responsibilities &
tasks.
Discuss hypothetical
situations ("What should you
do if...").
Hold family discussions.

Youngsters want and need boundaries. They need parents who set clear limits, not parents who try to be pals. Reward good behavior (usually, praise is enough) and discourage all instances of bad behavior (imposing fair, consistent consequences that show you are serious about character). Enforce the core values even when it is difficult.

Make the importance of good character utterly clear. Your children need you as a signal for what's wrong or right. Don't be neutral about what to do and not to do. Just as you are clear about them not running into the street or playing with matches, be clear and uncompromising that you want and expect your children to be trustworthy, respectful, responsible, fair, caring and good citizens.

This is the toughest step in character education.
Do as I say not as I do" just doesn't work. So be careful and self-conscious about setting a good example in everything you do and say. Hold yourself to the highest standards. You may already be a good role model now, but remember,everything you do, and don't do sends a message about your values. Be sure your messages reinforce your lessons about doing the right thing even when it's hard. When you slip (and most of us do) act the way you want your children to behave when they act improperly. Be accountable, apologize sincerely--and do better next time!